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Two words that flew out my mouth without thought in the same way we hear those fillers "like", "um" and "yeah". So much of my life I constantly apologized. For something I said, did, or thought. Sometimes even for someone else's actions.
Nine times out of ten those two words were completely unnecessary. Instead of expressing appropriate remorse, I managed to diminish my self-respect and relinquish my power.
So how did this habit begin? A 2005 article in Seattle Woman Magazine shows that unnecessary apologies help women feel like their maintaining relationships by soothing a situation or are when women lack self confidence and take blame for things that go wrong. For me, a huge part was wanting to be loved by everyone.
No more. I no longer apologize for who I am...for what I say, think or do. Love or hate me, just accept and respect me. Open, closed, honest, vulnerable, beautiful, ugly, creative, analytical...sometimes fun and smiling, sometimes absolutely terrifying.
I am...and I own it with pride in the moment.
Next time you hear me say those words - I'm sorry, excuse me, my bad - know that I really mean it.
Stand strong in your truth. With no more apologies.
just being me,